We Can Save Our Boys Of Color

As a community, we must recognize that our boys of color are deserving, and worthy of our care and attention. It is not enough to simply acknowledge the challenges they face; we must actively work to provide them with the support they need to thrive. By investing in their education, mental health, and overall well-being, we can ensure that they have the resources necessary to overcome obstacles and reach their full potential. Let us come together to show these boys that they are valued and that we are dedicated to their success.

%

of Black kids

in special education are boys

%

Boys of color

represent 58%

of school suspensions

%

of all homicide

victims are boys of color

We Can Save Our Boys of Color

By Dr. Malik Muhammad

Boys of color continue to be at risk, and we are responsible for doing everything in our power to save their lives. Thankfully, some schools and activists are working tirelessly to turn the tide. Dr. Muhammad's latest book is a comprehensive guide that outlines three of six practices and strategies that can help save the very lives of our boys of color. We must understand the severity of this issue and take action before it's too late. We owe it to our boys to provide them with a safe and secure future where they can grow and thrive without fear of violence or discrimination, a future where equity includes caring for our boys of color.

The 6 Practices to Save Our Boys of Color

Single Gender Environments

Our boys of color deserve special spaces that are designed just for their needs. We can build these large and small dedicated environments for them.

Restorative Practices

We've punished and policed our boys in an effort to control them. We need practices that increase their sense of community, responsibility, and accountability without harm.

Mental Health Supports

Tupac said that many of us are "dying inside, but outside we're looking fearless." We need mental health supports designed and relevant for our black and brown boys specifically.

Innovative Mentoring

Let's get committed to learning how to find, embrace

and invite in men mentors who are relevant and transformative for our boys of color.

Rites of Passage

The journey to manhood is challenging, full of pitfalls and misdirection. Our boys need a process to understand where and how they are going on that journey.

Self-Discipline & Social Justice

It is not enough to be good, we have to be good for something. How can we awaken and channel their natural instinct to make a difference?

We Can Save Our Boys of Color excerpts...

 We often find well-intentioned practitioners encouraging Black and Latino boys as young as ten to “man up” and “start taking on responsibility.”  This encouragement is admirable at times, but it is also damaging. 

In the face of overwhelming odds and a brutal system that will ‘take your body’ according to Ta-Nehisi Coates, the notion is that we don’t have time to waste in giving the message to our boys to mature even before they are biologically and psychologically ready.  The critical flaw in this strategy is that we lean heavily towards the punitive approach as we attempt to temper the spirits of our boys into this patriarchal and stereotypical steel. 

Chapter 2, A Complex Problem Needs a Comprehensive Solution

Being emotionally vulnerable and appropriate models this for our boys of color and communicates that they are worthy of your attention, care, and concern. 

You demonstrate, better than anything else, that you have a connection and relationship.... we develop and build these connections even more by reaching out to them first, being human with them first, and being vulnerable with them first.  This means we have to shoot down all idiotic advice like “don’t smile until January” because this doesn’t lead to authentic connection.

Chapter 4, Relationships & Repairing Harm: Restorative Practices

 

For our boys of color, it is more than just an unwillingness to be vulnerable.  When faced with often real and perceived negative environments, not only do you not openly share vulnerabilities, but you actively conceal your challenges, weaknesses, and struggles. 

Chapter 5, Healing Emotional Pain: Mental Health Supports